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November 18, 2011

ダブルスタンダードで考えると論争が整理できる

できる人・やれる人には自己を高める努力を求め、もっともっとと厳しく要求する。
一方で、十分がんばっている人には「休めばいい・無理しなくていい」と言う。
これが、思慮分別のあるダブルスタンダードである。


そう考えると、勝間和代氏と香山リカ氏の「がんばらないで」の論争は、シングルスタンダードの弊害であることが分かる。

香山氏は、『しがみつかない生き方』を出版し「勝間勝代を目指さない」を帯にした(今は違う)。
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勝間に感化された女性たちが努力のし過ぎで疲れきってしまっていると指摘し、「カツマーになったことで不幸になる女性が増えている」と主張。 さらに、目標を達成できないことで自分を責め、うつ病を患い精神科を受診する女性が増えているとも明かした。

対する勝間は、相手を正面から睨みつける迫力満点の顔で、「努力そのものを楽しんでほしい」「年収が多い方が幸せになれるのが現実。目を背けないでほしい」と反論。「どうせ不況だから努力してもムダ」とあきらめる風潮を否定し、夫がいなくても子供を大学まで行かせられる「年収600万円」を目指して努力することが女の幸せにつながると、あらためて主張した。淀みなく言葉を並べ、今年の干支・虎が獲物を狩る時のような鋭い眼光で香山を威嚇する勝間、さすがの勢いである。

反論を受けた香山は「(勝間の理論は)勝ち組になれなかった人たちを切り捨てている」「勝間さん(の本)は金持ち仕様ってこと?」と返した。香山の言葉にヒートアップした勝間は、「香山さんこそが、下々の者みたいな感じで何にもできないと思い込んでいる」と口撃。香山は思わず「はぁ!?」と怒りの声を上げ、まさに女同士のガチバトルとなった。

 香山氏は『しがみつかない生き方』を出版しの」「勝間さん、努力で幸せになれますか」という共著もある。
香山氏の言うように、誰もが勝間氏のようになれるわけじゃない・全ての人が勝間氏をめざさなくてもいい、それはそれで正論なのだ。
 「『頑張ってもうまくいかない』『頑張れない自分はダメだ』……こう訴える30代、40代の女性の患者さんが増えています。という香山氏の訴えは切実である。
 
 ただし、 「ナンバーワンよりオンリーワン」や「がんばらないで」というメッセージが、本来がんばるべき人のサボタージュの口実になっても、これまた困る。勝間氏の言うように「どうせ不況だから努力してもムダ」とあきらめる風潮は否定したい。
 「ナンバーワンよりオンリーワン」や「がんばらないで」といったメッセージは甘やかすだけだという声を聞くが、シングルスタンダードで、ナンバーワンよりオンリーワンだと決めてしまうからいけないのだ。

 「あなたはオンリーワンでいい。十分がんばっている。無理しなくていいんだよ」
 「あなたはもっとできる。ここで気を抜くのはモッタイナイ。遠慮しないでナンバーワンをめざせ!」

と個別対応すれば問題はない。
 「善は急げ」と「急いては事をし損じる」といった正反対の格言が存在するのと同じで、時と場合に応じて都合のいい方を選べばよい。

 ダブルスタンダードは、個別指導である。
 ダブルスタンダードは不公平だと考えた自分の発想が貧困なのだが、世の中は何かと分かりやすい二項対立に持ち込みたがる。この安易な世の中の二項対立に巻きこまれないように注意しないと!

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